#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: What if I don’t need more positivity–just real optimism?

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts:  What if I don’t need more positivity—just real optimism? For a long time, I thought optimism meant pretending things wouldn’t go wrong. As a highly sensitive, introverted person, that never felt honest—or safe.So I called myself “realistic.” Careful. Prepared. What I didn’t realize then was that I was spending a lot of energy worrying in advance. Optimism finally made sense to me when I stopped trying to convince myself that things would go right. Here’s the shift that changed everything: I didn’t stop worrying by assuming things would go right.I stopped worrying when I trusted I could handle them if they didn’t.That’s when optimism finally made sense to me. That kind of optimism isn’t naïve.It’s grounded.It says: Life may be hard sometimes—and I…

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#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Would you like to be self-employed?

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Would you like to be self-employed? A lot of sensitive and introverted people tell me they dream about working for themselves.But here’s something we don’t say enough: Self-employment isn’t just a career choice for many of us — it’s a nervous-system choice. It’s not about “being your own boss.”It’s about finally working in a way that doesn’t drain you, overstimulate you, or slowly erode your confidence. But (unpopular truth):Self-employment isn’t automatically easier.It just demands a different kind of strength — and highly sensitive people have that strength, just not in the traditional, loud, hustle-based way. So if you’re considering self-employment, here’s some unconventional advice: 1. Don’t chase a “business idea.” Chase what feels emotionally sustainable.If your business drains you, your nervous system will…

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#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Do you have a motivational problem?

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Do you have a motivational problem? It happens to us all. One day we’re motivated, and the next day we’re not. You may have been filled with enthusiasm when a project began or when you wanted to start something new. Then you ran into some obstacles, or things ended up being way harder than expected. All that upsurge of energy inevitably wanes, as dreams morph into reality, and you lose your confidence and momentum. We’ve all experienced this type of frustration and disappointment, and it can cause us to give up prematurely. I'm guilty of this. I always seem to have a string of unfinished projects or get frustrated when I want to do something. I love the start of something new, but…

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