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#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: What if Positivity isn’t The Answer?

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: What If Positivity Isn’t the Answer? I’ve been dealing with some difficult times myself, and it has reminded me of something I think we sometimes get wrong about positivity. We hear a lot about “thinking positive.” And yes, I believe positive thinking can help. It can reduce stress, improve our outlook, and help us keep moving forward. But there’s a problem. Life isn’t always positive. Crises happen. Disappointments happen. Things go wrong. Sometimes we have absolutely no idea how a difficult situation is going to turn out. And if you’re highly sensitive or introverted, you may feel those difficult circumstances especially deeply. So I don’t think the answer is to tell yourself, “Just stay positive.” Sometimes that’s unrealistic. Instead, I’ve found it more…

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#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Do you feel guilty for leaving one-sided relationships?

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Do you feel guilty for leaving one-sided relationships? One of the hardest things I’ve had to learn as a highly sensitive introvert is this: You can be a caring person and still decide you’ve had enough. For years, I thought ending a relationship with family and friends — even a one-sided one — meant I was being selfish. I worried: “Am I overreacting?” “Am I being too sensitive?” “What if they think I’m a bad person?” But here’s what I eventually realized: Feeling guilty doesn’t always mean you’re doing something wrong. Sometimes it means you’re finally doing something different. Some people don’t truly miss you. They miss your availability. They miss your advice. They miss your kindness. They miss having someone who always…

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#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: What If Being Different Was Never the Problem?

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: What If Being Different Was Never the Problem? For years, I thought my goal was to become more "normal." Talk more. Worry less. Stop feeling everything so deeply. Blend in. I believed that if I could just fix those things, life would finally get easier. I was wrong. The problem was never that I was different. The problem was believing that different automatically meant defective. As a highly sensitive person, an introvert, and someone who has lived with social anxiety, I spent years measuring myself against people who were wired completely differently than I was. Every comparison convinced me that I needed to change who I was instead of understanding how I was wired. I felt different as a child. I was tall…

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#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Stop waiting for life to feel normal!

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Stop waiting for life to feel normal! As the picture suggests...Will our lives ever be normal? There was a time when I kept telling myself, "Once this is over, then I'll get my life back." Lately, it's been my health. Doctor appointments. Insurance headaches. Waiting for test results. Phone calls that lead nowhere. One delay after another. I realized something that hit me hard. I wasn't just waiting for answers. I was putting my entire life on hold. As highly sensitive people, we often do this without realizing it. We postpone living until our circumstances improve. I've stopped doing that. Here are four things I've started doing that have made a real difference. 1. I separate "life" from "the problem." Every morning, I…

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