#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Is avoiding responsibility keeping us stuck in victimhood?

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Is avoiding responsibility keeping us stuck in victimhood? I’m going to be direct: avoiding responsibility doesn’t protect people—it traps them. When we stop taking responsibility for our actions and our lives, we don’t become safer or more compassionate with ourselves. We become stuck. Victimhood quietly takes over, and forward movement slows or stops altogether. Yes, life is unfair. Some people carry heavier burdens, painful pasts, health challenges, or heightened sensitivity. Those realities matter. But when they become the primary explanation for why nothing changes, they also become the reason nothing improves. I’ve seen people—including highly sensitive people—define themselves by what happened to them instead of what they still have the power to do. That way of thinking drains energy, confidence, and hope. Taking…

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#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Are you self-conscious?

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Are you self-conscious? Some of us don’t just walk into a room. We feel every emotion in it— and then worry we don’t belong there. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been aware of how I came across—too tall, too quiet, too sensitive, too something. I spent years worrying about what people thought of me. But here’s what I eventually discovered: *  Self-consciousness isn't a weakness. It’s awareness turned inward. Highly sensitive people notice everything. We read the room before most people even step through the door. We sense moods, pick up on energy, and feel the tension in the air. But that same awareness—the gift that lets us feel deeply—can turn against us…

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#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: What blushing taught me about human nature (Part 3)

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: What blushing taught me about human nature (Part 3) For most of my life, I wanted my blushing to stop.Now I see it as one of the most honest teachers I’ve ever had. Here’s what it’s taught me about human nature — lessons I couldn’t have learned any other way. 1. Everyone’s self-conscious.Some people blush. Some fidget, talk too fast, or shut down.We all reveal ourselves when we care how we’re being perceived.It’s not weakness — it’s proof that we’re wired for belonging. 2. Confidence isn’t the absence of self-awareness — it’s comfort with being seen.When I stopped trying to hide my blush, it lost its power over me.People aren’t drawn to perfection; they’re drawn to honesty.There’s a quiet strength in saying, “This…

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#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Do you blush too? (Part 2)

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Do you blush too? (Part 2) Here are some more strategies on how I deal with blushing: Strategy 1: Make the Moment Bigger, Not SmallerMost of us shrink when we blush. We want to disappear. But what if you did the opposite?When I blush, I lean in. I let myself take up space — shoulders back, slower breath, eye contact if it feels safe. Why? Because shrinking makes self-consciousness grow. Expanding shrinks it. When you act like you have nothing to hide, your body slowly believes you. Strategy 2: Narrate What’s True — Out Loud (if you dare)When I feel that heat rising, sometimes I just name it to myself. “I blush easily — it’s my built-in honesty meter.” I realize that people…

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