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#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: What if Positivity isn’t The Answer?

Post category:Challenge and Conflict

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: What If Positivity Isn’t the Answer? I’ve been dealing with some difficult times myself, and it has reminded me of something I think we sometimes get wrong about positivity. We hear a lot about “thinking positive.” And yes, I believe positive thinking can help. It can reduce stress, improve our outlook, and help us keep moving forward. But there’s a problem. Life isn’t always positive. Crises happen. Disappointments happen. Things go wrong. Sometimes we have absolutely no idea how a difficult situation is going to turn out. And if you’re highly sensitive or introverted, you may feel those difficult circumstances especially deeply. So I don’t think the answer is to tell yourself, “Just stay positive.” Sometimes that’s unrealistic. Instead, I’ve found it more…

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Do you feel guilty for leaving one-sided relationships?

Post category:Friendship & Relationships

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Do you feel guilty for leaving one-sided relationships? One of the hardest things I’ve had to learn as a highly sensitive introvert is this: You can be a caring person and still decide you’ve had enough. For years, I thought ending a relationship with family and friends — even a one-sided one — meant I was being selfish. I worried: “Am I overreacting?” “Am I being too sensitive?” “What if they think I’m a bad person?” But here’s what I eventually realized: Feeling guilty doesn’t always mean you’re doing something wrong. Sometimes it means you’re finally doing something different. Some people don’t truly miss you. They miss your availability. They miss your advice. They miss your kindness. They miss having someone who always…

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Do You Really Trust Yourself?

Post category:Self Awareness

#HighlySensitivePerson #Introverts: Do You Really Trust Yourself? For years, I thought my biggest problem was that I cared too much about what other people thought. I was wrong. The real problem was that I didn't trust myself. Every decision became exhausting. Should I speak up? Should I stay quiet? Should I accept this job? Should I leave this relationship? Should I follow my instincts—or ignore them again? I kept looking outside myself for reassurance because I believed someone else knew me better than I knew myself. But they didn't. No one lives inside your mind. No one feels what you feel. No one carries your experiences. Only you do. As a highly sensitive, introverted, and socially anxious person, I spent years believing my sensitivity made…

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: The Real Problem Isn’t What Other People Think of You

Post category:Something to think about!

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: The Real Problem Isn't What People Think of You One of the biggest turning points in my life wasn't becoming more confident. It was realizing that most people weren't thinking about me nearly as much as I imagined. For years, I worried about what people thought. Did I say the wrong thing? Did I sound awkward? Did I make a bad impression? After almost every conversation, I'd replay it in my mind, looking for mistakes that no one else probably noticed. Then one day I asked myself a simple question. How much time do I spend thinking about everyone else's small mistakes? Almost none. Because I'm usually busy thinking about my own life. That's when something finally clicked. Maybe everyone else is doing…