Cliff Harwin – The Highly Sensitive Person Publishing Company

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: What If Your “Lack of Focus” Isn’t the Problem?

Post category:Concentration and Focus

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: What If Your “Lack of Focus” Isn’t the Problem? What if your focus isn’t broken… What if it’s overloaded? As a highly sensitive person, you don’t struggle to focus because you’re weak. You struggle because you notice everything. Every thought. Every emotion. Every shift in your environment. Your mind isn’t distracted— it’s wide open. And no one ever taught you how to close the door. Here’s what I’ve learned from my own experience: 1. Stop forcing focus. Start choosing it. Focus isn’t about discipline—it’s about meaning. If something truly matters to you, your mind will follow. Ask yourself: Why does this deserve my attention right now? If you can’t answer that honestly, your brain will keep wandering. 2. Your energy decides your focus—not…

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Do you allow annoying people to drain you?

Post category:Challenge and Conflict

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Do you allow annoying people to drain you? Let me say something that might feel uncomfortable at first: Some people aren’t just “annoying”… They’re enabled. And if you’re highly sensitive or introverted, there’s a good chance—without realizing it—you’ve been doing the enabling. I know I did. I used to think I was being kind, patient, and understanding when I: • Kept listening • Kept explaining • Kept giving chances • Kept engaging But what I was really doing was this: I was teaching people that my energy had no limit. Here’s the unconventional truth: Annoying people don’t drain you nearly as much as your lack of boundaries does. Read that again. It’s not their behavior that exhausts you… It’s your continued access to…

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Is it trust issues… or misplaced trust?

Post category:Self Awareness

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Is it trust issues… or misplaced trust? As a highly sensitive, introverted person, I’ve had to learn this the hard way. I used to believe that being open quickly meant being authentic. So I shared too much, too soon… with people who hadn’t earned that level of access. I thought helping everyone was kindness. But often, I was pouring energy into people who were just… passing through. I used to say, “I don’t trust anyone.” But that wasn’t true. What I really hadn’t learned yet was how to trust wisely. Here’s what experience has taught me: Not everyone deserves the real you right away. Some people are drawn to your sensitivity… but not to protect it. Over-giving isn’t generosity—it’s often a quiet form…

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Are you practicing happiness–or Waiting for it to Arrive?

Post category:Happiness

#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: Are You Practicing Happiness—or Waiting for It to Arrive? For most of my life, I asked the wrong question: “Why am I not happy?” I thought maybe it was my wiring… my past… my personality… And as a highly sensitive, introverted person, I had plenty of evidence to support that story. But here’s the uncomfortable truth I’ve come to believe: Happiness is not predetermined. But your default patterns are. And unless you gently challenge those patterns… they will quietly decide your life for you. I’ve noticed something over the years: Some people have very little… and feel deeply content. Others have everything… and still feel empty. So what’s the difference? It’s not their circumstances. It’s what they’ve trained themselves to notice. Here’s the…