#HighlySensitivePeople #Introverts: How to rid yourself of holiday drain

If the holidays drain you more than they delight you, you’re not broken — you’re probably a highly sensitive person trying to survive a season designed by people who don’t feel things as deeply as you do.

Here’s the truth I had to learn the hard way:

You don’t need a better attitude.
You need a better strategy — one that honors the nervous system you actually have, not the one the world expects you to have.

Here are the unconventional tips I use to take back the holidays on my terms:

1. Social Overload Isn’t a Character Flaw — It’s a Capacity Issue.

There are simply too many social obligations in one month.
So don’t try to “push through.”

Don’t pace yourself — curate yourself.
Say yes with intention and no without guilt.

Anyone who needs you to perform holiday cheer for their comfort isn’t your people.

2. Loneliness, Anxiety, & Holiday Sadness Don’t Mean You’re Failing.

Sensitive people don’t feel lightly.
But here’s what surprised me:

Loneliness can move you toward connection more powerfully than motivation ever will.

Reach out to someone — gently, in your way.
And if your anxiety or sadness becomes too much, get help now.
There’s no reward for suffering silently through December.

3. Stop Aiming for the Perfect Holiday — Aim for the Honest One.

“Good enough” is more peaceful than “perfect” ever was.

Good enough meals.
Good enough gatherings.
Good enough gifts.

Most people don’t remember the details — they remember how they felt around you.

4. Crowds, Lines, Traffic — They’re Loud, But You Don’t Have to Be.

Holiday chaos is unavoidable.
But your reaction is yours to protect.

When I’m stuck in it, I:
• listen to something funny
• catch up with a friend
• take a few deep breaths
• remind myself this is temporary

Stress belongs to the season.
Calm belongs to you.

A Thought to Carry With You

You don’t have to match the world’s pace to have a meaningful holiday — you just have to match your own.

These reminders work year-round anytime life gets louder than you prefer.

What’s one strategy YOU use to protect your peace during the holidays?

Your insight might help someone else get through this season with more ease. I’d love to hear any thoughts or comments that you have.

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