As a highly sensitive person with shyness tendencies, I never let that hinder my ability to accomplish living life on my own terms. It’s true that if you let shyness get the best of your desires and keep you from even trying, you’ll never know what you can accomplish. But what if you just did it ? What would happen if you put your face out there and let others know who you really are?

As a writer, I had to do it. I put my real name and face to everything I write, including my website, blog, and newsletter.  I write about highly sensitive people, introverts, and those with social anxiety from a personal point of view. I’ve been told that people relate to what I say. This gives them insight and confidence to move forward in their lives. I get tremendous satisfaction and motivation to keep writing!

I know what it’s like to have negative thoughts and fears that others will think badly of me because of my shyness tendencies. No one wants to be laughed at, made fun of, or be rejected. These fears can be overcome through practice and developing skills that will put yourself in your best light. This can be done without the feeling that you have to change yourself. We’re fine just the way we are!

Here are some thoughts to work with your shyness:

• Don’t label yourself– Don’t put the “shy” label on yourself. You don’t have to tell others that you are. Act naturally and you’ll attract other like minded and supportive people to yourself.
• Focus on your strengths– This will diminish any self doubt. You’ll be more confident to try new things.
• Practice situations where you can interact with others– Talk to someone in the bank, post office, or just waiting in line at the supermarket. Isn’t it true that people of all ages would rather text than talk? This enables them to communicate everything they want to say without having others ever see their face. How does this help you? Practice small talk to get yourself started.
• Realize that not everyone will like you – Aren’t there some people you don’t like and aren’t drawn to? Some personalities just don’t click with other personalities. It’s not complicated, but it is a fact of life. Learn to shrug it off and move on.
• Act as if you didn’t have a shy bone in your body-– You’ll eventually believe it yourself. This is an especially good way to present yourself to others.
• Learn from social setbacks– Everyone has setbacks. Learn from it, don’t dwell on it, and move on.
• Quit thinking about yourself– No one else is – they’re too focused on their own needs.

Understand that shyness is normal and that people will judge you. Does shyness hold you back? If so, what can you do to overcome it? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.