#HighlySensitivePeople: Do you have difficulty saying “no”?

Learning when and how to say "no" to people is an essential skill in managing your time, energy, and resources effectively. It involves understanding your priorities and boundaries and communicating them clearly and respectfully. Saying no is not just about rejecting a request; it's about making conscious choices that align with your values and capacity. The ability to say no starts with recognizing the importance of your boundaries. These are the limits you set for yourself, which help define what you are comfortable with and what you are not. Understanding and respecting your boundaries is crucial for maintaining your well-being and ensuring you don’t overcommit or experience burnout. Be clear about your priorities and commitments. This clarity helps in deciding what to say yes to…

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#HighlySensitivePeople: Is being assertive a challenge for you?

I know from personal experience how hard it is to be assertive. Assertiveness is a skill that significantly impacts both personal and professional aspects of life. It's about expressing yourself effectively and standing up for your point of view, while also respecting the rights and beliefs of others. Being assertive can help manage stress and improve decision-making, and it's a trait that can be developed with practice. The first step in becoming more assertive is understanding what it means. Assertiveness is often confused with aggression, but they are fundamentally different. Aggression disregards the feelings and rights of others, while assertiveness respects them. It’s a balanced way of being clear about your needs and wants without being overbearing. To develop assertiveness, start with introspection. Reflect on…

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#HighlySensitivePeople: Are You An Effective Complainer?

As a highly sensitive person, I don’t like conflict, but sometimes it’s necessary to fight for what we want and deserve. Getting what you want requires a willingness to be a little irritating. As the old adage goes, the squeaky wheel gets the grease. The people who complain the most get the most attention—and fair or not, they get what they want. Yet most of us are uncomfortable with the idea of complaining. We don’t want to make a noise about things, much less an irritating one. Use a complaint as an opportunity to find a solution and improve the situation. (more…)

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#HighlySensitivePeople: Do You Need To Explain Your High Sensitivity?

I never thought I needed to explain my high sensitivity. If something bothered or irritated me that I was very “sensitive” to, I would let that person know I wasn’t happy. Sometimes I handled it in a proper and calm way and explained why something bothered me. I didn’t mention my sensitivity.

More times than I’d like to admit, I didn’t handle it in a civilized manner. If someone commented that I was “too sensitive” about something, I would retort “Yes, I am sensitive, and I don’t like what you said” in a not so nice tone of voice. I would then explain what was bothering me. Hey, I never said I was perfect! Although we highly sensitive people try to be. Why is that? (more…)

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